《愿有人陪你颠沛流离》

是否有过还没仔细翻阅一本书之前,你已经知道自己会喜欢上。这个是对书“一见钟情”吗?或许吧。

人的一见钟情很多是因为外貌,也有一些是因为心灵感应、心有灵犀。
跟书的一见钟情应该是后者,无关封面的设计,纯粹因为深信与书的内容可以和谐相处。

《愿有人陪你颠沛流离》(作者:卢思浩)应该就是这样的书。
因为:
“有种文字不是笔写在纸上,而是手刻在心里,所以风吹不会四散,反会愈发坚定。” — 刘同

Books :)

最近看了好几本书,因为想利用现在的机会好好地让自己接触多一些非学科的文字。充实的可能不是头脑的只是,但更多是自己对生活的想法。现在的我不再一直想我要的人生是什么了,不是放弃但只是觉得空想并不会给我带来多少实践的答案。唯一确定的是,渐渐明白我该最求的是生活,不是生存。

看了其中一本书是自己喜欢的作者:刘同,书名《谁的青春不迷茫》,还没有看完但是或许当时宣读的心境是想看看别人如何度过了年轻时对自己的不了解核对周围世界的摸索,最后想看看他得到了什么成长,而我又可以得到什么启发。再来也读了蔡康永著的《爱情短信—未知的恋人》;不仅仅是爱情小说吧。这本书读起来好像《小王子》,好像教会你某些道理。

之前也因为作业的关系必须去看林语堂先生的《吾国于吾民》,这本书我想现阶段我还不能完全吸收但是他促使我想去另一本著作《京华烟云》。书中的人物历经的时代和他们应对以及转变我都会有一种很奇妙的感觉。虽然故事并不真实,但是它促使你想去看完并且之后留下的是一种淡淡的熟悉和亲切感。

最后,看了这些书并不觉得是成就但是希望记下来成长过程中给我一些启发的文字。。在网上也看到一篇文字,觉得很有意义:“既然选择了人生的道路,做好自己应该做的事让自己快乐起来;比抱怨和张望要有意义得多。” 现在虽然有一些迷茫的事,但庆幸文字让我找到平衡自己心情的答案;或许有一天顺其自然地一切都会好好的 只要相信 🙂

There’s always more to things

Read an online article about Samantha Lo aka Sticker Lady. i really resonate with some of her views and so i guess im sharing the article here, as archive for myself or anyone who happens to read the blog.

Link: I Still Stand by My Work 

yes, some will say she is wrong to do what she did, but personally i always feel that there are two sides to the coin.. so of course on one hand the way she chose to execute things might not be good (and btw, she already knew it’s not legal and prepared to face the consequences if caught) and anyways this particular article’s emphasis is on her intention.

the ‘back story’ to why she did it, and personally i feel that execution aside, her ideas are actually good: to take back spaces and define them with singaporean-meanings. (maybe this is some geographer ‘fetish’ about spaces and places..)

the article is meant to share hers ideas and her motivation, not so much the execution or discussion about her right/wrong. i may not be an artist, but i do appreciate arts and art, i think it gives people the chance to be expressive which is important (as indicated by this blog’s tagline)

and there’s always more to things, beyond the vandalism and charges, there’s always both a good side and bad side to anything.

PS: i think being able to make a reader think about what she says (by sharing her ideas), she is already in the process of getting people to talk and think about the current state of things 🙂 quite smart!

IMM is not all that wrong..

I remember reading an article about how millennials (people born between 1980s to 2000 are called) are very IMM in nature. IMM = I, Me, Myself.

I guess it isn’t totally wrong, but my personal interpretation is not that we are becoming more selfish compared to other generation, it may not even be all that negative. IMM has something to do with how we are being influenced? Since young we almost have access to any kind of information at the touch of our finger tips (internet!!!), it’s a double edge sword. While we are deemed to be more independent in learning and more well informed than previous generations, we are also faced with more uncertainty. There is a saying that goes: the more one knows and gain access to information, the more we are aware of our own inadequacies.

and perhaps it is this ‘knowing’ that makes us more empowered to change or even more vulnerable, therefore the urge to first and foremost protect ourselves.. which inevitably making us more self-centred?

Disclaimer: I don’t have a definite answer and maybe this post serves as a purpose or even an excuse for my personal laziness before i continue.. 

Most of the time I would want to be a thinker, a do-er, but not having to worry. Sometimes worrying comes not only from knowing too much, worrying may come in the form of  facing uncertainties, things you can’t control and even fatigue.

Maybe these days, that one day, that one moment, you may feel too tired to do anything. You may take a look at your plate and decide that: “At this moment, I have a lot to deal with and I simply don’t want to do anything or even think about it.”

Yet this thought is a vicious cycle, the more you stop at doing, the more you worry because something is there but you are not propelling yourself to take enough action. How then does one break away from it all? I guess it is alright to feel fatigue, tired and even scared.. it is even okay to become self-centred and IMM in such lethargic moments, it is okay to stop doing for awhile..

It works both ways, give yourself a chance to admit your vulnerability, give others a chance to be vulnerable for being tired (who hasn’t face such situations?). Take a step back, not do anything and work towards where you can start from zero – a fresh state of being/mind.

To end off, it is okay to be IMM, as long as you resolute to find yourself afterwards. After all “lethargic days will pass and I will be alright after some rest”

PS: It is more important to restart than carry on tired and reducing your potential. and maybe at this moment i am being IMM to things I have to do.

Redefining “Beautiful” | Thought Catalog

Redefining “Beautiful” | Thought Catalog.

 

Being beautiful is also about finding that confidence in us. it may take time to realize or be at ease with yourself, but we can eventually find it if we allow ourselves to..

and thankful that at the start of this week i can come across something that inspires me..
“There is so much that a person can do, if we truly present ourselves to the world”. ^^

What defines you?

I took a class on Social Geography last semester and that particular module sort of changed the way i view the world… or more specifically how i view the interactions/perhaps intention between people (and of course their environment).

anyways this is a morning post so i would have read whatever online news i can get my hands on, and i was just reading a report about the New Mexico teenager who had massacred his family. the question of “how should we be defined” (our identity) popped into my mind after reading it.

this particular person is labeled a teenager (cos of his age profile), granted this is almost the silent marker for any basic person-category.. then next comes the report with such a sentence: “He was a brother, nephew, grandson and cousin” 

the above line was apparently said by his uncle. it then occurred to me that he just defined his nephew in terms of his family role, and i remember past trends of reading news reports with similar style of definition mostly whenever someone makes a mistake or when someone passed away. but an identity is multi-faceted and influenced by different factors, i even found a picture for this belief of mine!

for these definitions, it struck to me as an attempt to make the person mentioned feel ‘close’ to you; sort of trying to relate you with the subject. anyways this massacre report basically mentioned how shocking it was for the family that something like this happened, and i guess the intention was to really dispel notion that the boy was a ‘monster’ as labeled by the press; like showing because he is part of a family and usually family members don’t do that to each other.

maybe it’s just me, but i feel that it is meaningless to define a person merely by the roles he/she plays (quite an obvious point) it’s as if other traits the person might have is not as important as fulfilling the role required of him? but i guess one thing is right about the article, the teenager mentioned has some issues and he should be given help and his fair trial..

the main point is not really about the boy, but more of how i’m really irk by reports that always attempt to sugarcoat something by defining a person with relatable roles. personally, if i did something wrong i would prefer people to just say that i have a problem; because i do not think that me being a “daughter, niece, granddaughter and friend” does not mean that i won’t commit a mistake. or rather your role is not mutually exclusive with your wrong actions (couldn’t find a better phrasing)..

if it matters i would rather be defined by traits of how i carried myself.. then again definitions are always biased.

PS: just for today I found Yahoo! news reporting from a nice and less Cliché perspective.