如期而至

他们说每个人都有自己的路,我也相信每个人冥冥之中都有属于自己的那条路。它可以兜一大圈,也可以直接让你到达;无论怎样属于你的都会如期而至。你能够做的就是让自己继续往前走,因为停留了才会被打败;你坚持住就是掌握自己的命运,坚持不住反而会觉得命运在掌控你。

继续往前。

Random posting.

Taking a break post-lunch to fight off the food coma.. actually am just doing something that is taking attention my away from doing thesis, and i am rambling on.

have been reading a book that is not thesis related, yes i am that ‘daring’.. actually just making use of the time when i am commuting to school… to maintain a reading habit, and perhaps maintain my insanity self 😛 the book is about this author’s thoughts on growing up and his reflections on having lived through his 20s. some stories on love, family, friendship, but most are his reflections when he looked back on his 20s.

read something really nice from the book and i thought perhaps i would note it down:

“体谅是整个行为的妥协,绝非语言、气势、用词谴所能涵盖”… no idea how to give it an accurate translation, but my personal understanding is: to pardon someone, do it whole-heartedly, it should not be mixed with feelings of compromise, or done out of emotional considerations. it is to truly accept that course of action and put the episode behind you..

difficult to achieve i guess but very ideal to work towards. and the afternoon post is incomplete without media sharing:

was positively distracted by Spirited Away and this song has such a calming effect~ sounds melancholic yet hopeful at the same time 🙂

后退和树洞

看过一段文字,大概的意思就是:有时候你只需要说一句话,然后静静地呆着。
那句话:“我在这里听着你说。”
因为这句话背后的含义是:我当下的时间是属于你的,这是我的陪伴。

如果同意这段文字的话,恭喜你正在扮演 “树洞”的角色。“树洞”一个词是我的笔友告诉我的,指的是一个你倾诉的对象,这个对象并不会排斥你的倾诉最后可能还可以开导你。
回顾上周末看的一出舞台剧《守机碍情》,其中有一对朋友也是有这种“倾诉者和树洞”关系。。只是中间 “树洞”也有不耐烦的时候,当然最终他们还是化解了不愉快。

回想起来我们都在寻找愿意倾听的人,有些人找到了可是有些人还在寻找。找到了你的树洞那么恭喜你;还没找到希望你不要放弃。虽然如此我觉得这两者之间的差异并不是很大。
找到的人:可能面对树洞也有不耐烦的时候;
还没找到的人:可能人家不愿意当你的树洞。

你是否每一件事都在向人倾诉?或者你倾诉的内容是不是会带给人家不舒服的心情(负能量)?如果以上的答案 = 是,我想到的解决办法就是:后退。
我没有确切的答案,但是后退大概指的是:倾诉之前调整自己的心情,不要太激动了然后再告诉你的树洞:我需要倾诉,I need a listening ear. 大概想说的是:寻找支柱的当儿也希望不会困扰对方。如果你也愿意当对方的树洞,你同样希望别人不会带给你困扰。

好像很多事都是退让/努力后才可能达到美好。。说得容易但做起来蛮难,想起蔡康永说的:每一次的接触都是练习题,让我们变得更合格。

PS: 当然你如果找到了一个无论你怎样他(她)都愿意倾听的人,这是很难得的。

PPS: i should really translate this writing effort into my thesis.

It’s ‘snowing’ again…

It’s ‘snowing’ on WordPress ^^

exams are over, finally. this time round it was a little different, i had one exam that falls on the third last day of the exam period.. some might say it’s good so i can focus on revising for it. but having experienced it this time round, i really wouldn’t want to try again.

personally it works better if i have a few exams that are scheduled close to each other, cos i can catch the revision momentum.. this time round it was just draggy and towards the end i just want to get it over and done with. nevertheless exam is over, and thesis time is here.. it’s going to be a fast month and i hope everything goes well for my peers and myself… dear December, please be nice 🙂

on a side note, i really trust my gut feeling… but somehow, sometimes i am doubtful too. 愿切顺其自然、水到渠成。。这将是最好的安排 🙂