It’s so rare for me to blog at this timing but i figured i want to put it down before i forget about the thoughts and details which are still fresh in my mind right now..
it was a good day meeting up with my friend Grace. we first met during my time in fandom, i am pleasantly surprise and glad that she is a friend with whom i can still keep in touch with without the sole common interest on one idol.. we briefly discussed about this too..
i guess it’s another good thing i got out of my fandom experience, but also something that baffles me sometimes.. am i connected to most people i know in fandom only through that one idol that we all come to like? but anyways it’ll be deviating from my post..
anyways Grace just returned to Singapore upon completing her music degree in US.. she is one special friend and im glad that i could know her and still keep in touch with her because sometimes she forces me to think about life. it may sound fake and all, but yeap we often delve into the deeper discussions and of course still managed to find some funny topics in our conversations.. but i kind of like certain level of intimate discussions from time to time.
out of the many interesting things that we talked about today was the topic on foreigners. you see because we went to Millenia Walk for lunch (Medz by the way..) then we walked all the way from there to Marina Square via the underpass.
what got us into the topic was that the service staff in Medz are all foreigners (that is none of them is local).. then on the way to Marina Square she made an observation that majority of the shops had foreign service staff. she asked me about it and for a moment i was stunned.. personally i’m used to it already assuming maybe it’s cheaper to hire foreigners or maybe for some reason locals don’t take up jobs in service sector for reasons unknown to me.
then we walked past this group of white collared people who again made up of foreigners. she then add: “Maybe the unhappiness i sensed has some truth in it.” and you know what she has only been back for two weeks.. but yeap, i guess i made a point here.
over coffee/chat we talked about racism and prejudice etc. then i shared my observation which i seldom make public but often share with close friends. it has something to do with chinese nationals. since i have a couple of China-Chinese friends myself, i can’t help but observe that the situation like any is not one-dimensional.
my friends who are still living in China they are not as ungracious as some whom we encounter; they are respectful towards others and have less of self-entitlement attitude. they are even welcoming to foreign friends!
i shared with Grace that it has something to do with affluence and maybe just that sense of superiority for Chinese who left China for other countries. they are usually more affluent, or maybe they qualified for certain tests and achieved good enough results to have a chance at studies/work abroad. which i guess to a certain extent made them ‘better off’ than chinese who are still in China? that ‘cream of the crop’ sense could fuel some self-entitled attitude and so explains some problems with willingness to adjust and assimilate, that said this is a minority that has been magnified.. because 好事不出门，坏事传千里
and so it’s really not majority of the Chinese nationals with bad attitude, i know of friends who are gracious, and are accustomed to Singaporean ways like my friend Yuan. personally i think it’s a matter of a few black sheep who created this bad situation and impression. and although the affluent and self-entitlement observation is not true for all, there is still some truth in this.
my opinion on all the bad attitude and stuff? i only experienced once (3rd party encounter) where this person scolded a service staff for being stupid (she said something like Singaporeans are inflexible and therefore stupid)… at that time i felt indignant, who gave her the right to label people like this and if so why did she come to this ‘stupid’ country in the first place? in any case i choose to think that it’s her own problem wanting things to only go her way and by her action she is being uncouth and ungracious towards a service staff with no authority to decide/change the service rules. therefore no point stooping to her level and argue, no matter how well-educated she is at that point her attitude is low level..
fortunately i haven’t directly encounter any towards myself, and i will only comment when i’ve experienced it. for most time, i’ve learnt from my classes in school that ethnic clashes and cultural clashes are inevitable and part of every cosmopolitan city.. we can only adjust to it or a sure way is to not magnify these issues.
that said it’s difficult adjusting to differences and problems etc. and i guess i will end with a QOTD which popped up over coffee with Grace.. “Life is like black coffee”, bitter but necessary and sometimes we get a bit of sweetness amidst the bitterness. with part truth and part sarcasm😉